Mail: Coping w/ Geekery
My dear wife, I understand that you do not understand. You represent many women around this nation and world who are married to stealth geeks, yet are not geeks yourself. Because males in the Collective are generally well rounded individuals and often charming around the ladies, many of said ladies find themselves in relationships with stealth geeks.
Because you do not share the same interests (i.e. video games, comics, sci-fi, gadgetry, anime, cosplay, etc) as your BF/spouse, you may at times feel overwhelmed or even annoyed, as these interests are a large part of your significant other’s life.
On the issue of coping with your stealth geek, try to find common ground. For example, you and I both like Robert Downey Jr. and subsequently love Iron Man. Bah-dah beep bah-dah boop, common ground and fun movie-watching-time. We both like funny internet videos and memes. Boom, common ground and fun internet-together-times. We both like the iPhone game Words With Friends. Huzzah, fun family-video-game-times.
Obviously, you each will have interests that are mutually exclusive and you can pursue/engage in those interests separately, which is totally fine. Do try to find that common ground for quality time though.
On the issue of explaining to normal friends your stealth geek BF/husband’s interests….it’s a bit trickier. Your normal friends will have prejudices for what is and is not socially acceptable or normal. Obviously cosplaying Solid Snake from Metal Gear Solid is not normal. It’s something that most likely appears rather strange to them. Perhaps you could inquire of your normal friends’ hobbies or interests that may not be “normal” and convince them they shouldn’t be so quick to judge. Chances are however, your normal friends are also friends with your significant other and already accept the geekery. They might even find it a valuable trait. Emphasis on the “might.”
In the end, there really are “different strokes for different folks” and hopefully your normal friends aren’t too snobbish and supercilious to be friends with a stealth (or not so stealth) geek.
Your Loving Husband,
CaptainAhmazing
